
Across the nation and in Central PA, more families are welcoming their aging parents into their homes. With multi-generation households on the rise, homeowners have a wide range of options—from small suites to complete apartments—to keep family members close, reduce maintenance and care for mom and dad’s changing needs.
Like most major life decisions, cohabitation with aging parents calls for open communication. Jared Erb from Custom Home Group (customhomegroup.com) in Lancaster emphasizes the emotional aspects that come with bringing together family members who have led largely independent lives. He recommends having conversations about each party’s lifestyle needs and expectations earlier rather than later.
“Every family relates differently,” says Erb. “It’s important to consider how independent the in-law quarters should be from the main home and how much interaction they want to have. Some families might eat together every day, while others may live more separate lives.”
Among the most important drivers for identifying the right “in-law” living situation are the unique lifestyle needs of your parents. For active, independent parents who are in good health, a full-functional apartment connected to the main structure is likely the best choice. For parents who will integrate into everyday family life, sharing living spaces and perhaps requiring more care for their basic needs, an in-law suite equipped with a bedroom, bathroom and small study may do the trick.
Perry Cisney, a custom home builder (perrylcisney.com) in York, recently built an “in-law” apartment for a woman whose parents travel frequently and lead an active retirement. In this situation, privacy and independence were top considerations for all involved. A full kitchen, family room, master bath, laundry room, sunroom and carport were constructed.
“I designed it so the parents could come and go as they please without having to go through the primary home to get to their apartment,” Cisney says. “Ideally, parents should have their own entry so they don’t feel they’re disrupting the daily routine in the main home.”
Among the most important drivers for identifying the right “in-law” living situation are the unique lifestyle needs of your parents.
For families seeking a more shared lifestyle, in-law suites are an ideal option. In some scenarios, it’s a case of a parent who has lost his or her spouse or a family that simply chooses to live more closely.
“Every family we’ve built in-law quarters for has been exceptionally close,” says Becky Simeral of Simeral Construction (simeralconstruction.com) in Lancaster. “They wanted their parents close and most were in reasonably good health.”
Depending on the design of the main home, outside-of-box solutions may be required to meet everyone’s needs. In one such project, Simeral was charged with designing in-law quarters for a two-story home where the lot size prevented a first-floor addition. The solution? An in-law suite with a bedroom, bath and sitting area on the second floor, accessible by a residential elevator.
“Residential elevators are more affordable than you may think,” Simeral says.
With an eye toward the future, Simeral designed closets on the first and second floor that can be conveniently modified to create an elevator shaft in her own home.
Simeral is among a growing number of individuals who are considering their long-term mobility needs. According to the AARP, a vast majority of seniors indicate that they want to age in place, so they can continue to live in their own homes or communities. And indeed, builders and product manufacturers are rising to the challenge by introducing design and product innovations that make independent living possible (see side bar).
In his recent in-law project, Cisney aimed to keep living spaces at ground level by incorporating a no-step entry and sunroom. For wheelchair accessibility, all doorways and hallways were widened to 36 inches. With an accessibility mindset, many of his clients are opting for larger, walk-in showers over the traditional bathtub, Erb says.
Before putting your design ideas to paper, a clear understanding of your municipal code is critical, Erb says. While some townships allow homeowners to build a secondary residence on their existing lot, others have ordinances that prohibit completely independent structures and have setback rules that may come into play.
Another important factor that nearly every homeowner building in-law quarters must consider is how the suite or apartment will be used after the parents have passed. While it can be a delicate matter, the best time for homeowners to discuss what the space will eventually become—an art studio, an expanded master suite, a rental unit, etc.—is during the design phase.
For many, multi-generational living poses the exciting opportunity to reconnect, share in daily life and provide aging parents the security and support they gave so generously to their children. With open communication, recognition of everyone’s unique needs and the help of an experienced and dedicated builder, it’s possible to make it work for your family.
For Better Safety and Comfort
For seniors considering “aging in place,” there are many ways to add accessibility features that ensure better safety and comfort. Central PA aging in place experts Cheryl Krowther of Thos. Somerville Co. (tsomerville.com) and Kirk Hummel of United Disabilities Services (udservices.org) share their tips on design choices you can implement now for your future mobility needs:
In the bath:
- Opt for a curb-less shower for easy entry with flip-up bench seat
- Choose a handheld shower head on a bar with an anti-scalding feature
- Install a non-slip shower pan or textured flooring for better grip
- Consider rail systems in stylish finishes around toilets
- Forgo a bathtub for a larger, walk-in shower
In the kitchen:
- Add a prep area where you can be seated
- Consider easy-access drawer dishwashers
- Opt for rounded countertop edges
- Boost illumination with extra lighting
- Install touchless faucets
Throughout home:
- Opt for levers versus round doorknobs
- Eliminate as many steps as possible
- Forgo carpeting for hardwood